To Make Your 2020 Goals a Reality, Start by Quitting

Mary Foley Be More Productive

Crafting New Year goals is easy.  Creating the new habits and behaviors to make your dreams come true is hard.  More than 21 days hard.  If you really want to make your 2020 goals a reality, start with quitting a bunch of stuff that’s not working.

Making Goals a Reality Takes Time

Fact is, the belief that it takes 21 days to create a new habit is a myth.  “The 21 day myth may well come from a book published in 1960 by a plastic surgeon” says psychologist Jeremy Dean, author of Making Habits, Breaking Habits: Why We Do Things, Why We Don’t, and How to Make Any Change Stick.” 

That plastic surgeon, Dr. Maxwell Maltz, noticed that amputees took, on average, 21 days to adjust to the loss of a limb and he argued that people take 21 days to adjust to any major life changes.”

But, according to a study, it takes an average of 66 days to create a new habit.

And if you’re going for “mastery”, then expect it to take 10,000 hours, which turns into 5 or more years.

So, somewhere between 66 days and 10,000 hours and you’re good to go!

Bottom line:  Creating new habits to make your big goals happen takes lots of effort over time. Chances are your life is beyond full already. Where are you going to get the time and energy to do the real work of making your dreams come true?

Start By Quitting

“Quit the wrong stuff, stick with the right stuff, and have the courage to do one or the other” states Seth Godin in his short, powerful tome The Dip:  When to Quit and When to Stick.

Quit the things that no longer work or do enough in your life.  Maybe they used to, maybe at one time you were more interested and engaged.  Now, it’s just a drag. Like…

The book club that’s really a wine club and you don’t like to drink.

The networking meeting that’s mainly small business owners and now you are working in a large corporation.

The volunteer committee for a loved charitable organization, but the meetings no longer fit your schedule.

Let go. Quit. It’s not only okay, it’s good.  Very good.  For you and for everyone else touched by your involvement.

Not only do you get the time back you need to put towards your 2020 goals,  everyone else is freed up to discover new ideas, new people and create what’s best for their lives right now, too.

Quitting Takes Courage

More courage than creating big goals.  Because it feels uncomfortable to change your own behavior and awkward to say no.

I like Charlie Gilkey’s approach to quitting who “recognizes there are some obligations that we have that we really don’t want, but that it’s nonetheless important to see them through.”  So, you see through your commitments without over-doing it, and then don’t renew.

By quitting what’s no longer working and simply zapping your time, you open up space in your heart and head to focus on what you really care about, what you really have the passion to achieve, what you really love. Your big dreams are worth your best effort. Quit what’s getting in the way, but don’t quit you.


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3 Personal Productivity Ideas that Work Like Magic

Mary Foley Be More Productive
3 personal productivity ideas that work like magic

Is your personal productivity in the tank from the daily deluge of email and requests? Want a few personal productive ideas that work like magic?

Then, you’re like savvy Amy who sent me this email question:

“My email inbox has grown beyond my comfort and I want to implement some good strategies to be organized and to go full speed ahead. Any advice, like going to my local office supply store to see if they have some type of magical notebook?”

Here are 3 ideas I shared with Amy for her to create her own magic (including a magic notebook!). Not very glam, but they work. Use them to create your own personal productivity magic, too!

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You Will Never Have Enough Time Until You Do These 2 Things

Mary Foley Be More Productive

Did you run out of time today? Again? Ugh, it seems you never have enough time.

You begin your work day with full intention of being productive and before you know it your boss asked you to take care of something. Then your co-worker needed information for her 11 am meeting. Oh, and a client called with an emergency. Plus, your chatty colleague just had to tell you all the details about their weekend hiking trip.

The day is over and your list is hardly done. It might even be longer!

Understandable, responsive, and entertaining. But, you are left with a lingering to-do list and a really loud sucking sound from the time vacuum cleaner.

Productivity experts offer helpful suggestions such as managing your e-mail and social media, using productivity software, and getting organized. These can be useful tactics.

They can also be useless. You will never have enough time until you consistently do these two things.

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10 Practical, Productive, Fun Tips to Help You Thrive on Change

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10 Practical, Productive, Fun Tips to Help You Thrive on Change

Anything shifting in your career, your business or your life? Any new change you have initiated or are adjusting to right now? Right, got a pulse?!

As the world turns faster and faster, as events come at us like a bad movie marathon, and as we start down new paths in our lives, the ability to stay sane amidst the swirl isn’t just nice, it’s a critical, strategic skill.

Here are 10 tips to thrive on change that are practical, productive and fun!

#1  See change for what it is. Change is uncomfortable, so we avoid it. But, to have any chance of thriving on change, you have to accept that it’s happening. See it for what it is – and what it isn’t. Face it, get the facts, and understand what it really means.

#2  Get mad, cry and whine. Change is emotional. If you bottle up your feelings, they will only work against you. So allow yourself to get mad, cry and whine. But only for a short time and not at others. During a 20 minute shower is a good option. You’re wet anyway.

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