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3 Short Reasons Why Height Has Nothing to Do with Confidence and Respect

Mary Foley Be More Strategic

Have you ever felt your height (or lack thereof) has hindered your confidence or respect?

Like this accomplished business woman who asked at a live event I hosted:

“I’m the only female on a senior team. I’m barely 5 feet tall with heels. And I often feel that my value is being dismissed. I can’t suddenly become six inches taller! What can I do to feel more confident and be more respected?

Feel You’re Being Dismissed Because You’re Short?

I get it. Being only 5 feet, 2 inches tall myself, it’s easy to feel height-challenged (AKA down right short!). This particularly started to bother me as I was on the brink of the next big career jump. 

After 10 years and four promotions in my corporate career, I was ready for more and trying to make it happen. I was started to think being short wasn’t helping. 

Then, one day I was lamenting these  feelings to a trusted, female colleague who was dozen years older and much wiser.

“I’m afraid I’m not being taken seriously,” I told her.

I Will Never Forget Her Response

“Oh, that won’t happen once you open your mouth” she responded without a blink.

I laughed!

Instantly I knew she was right and that I was setting myself up for feeling “less than” when there was no need. I was making an assumption that others were limiting me because of my height. In reality, I was feeding my fears and limiting myself.

Making wrong assumptions and feeding your fears isn’t just for those who are short. I have a female colleague who is taller and bigger than most women. She struggles with others feeling intimidated by her when she’s one of the friendliest people you could meet. 

Regardless of your height, here are 3 behaviors every business woman can use to feel more confident and garner more respect.

#1 Remember who you are, what you’ve accomplished, and what value you bring to the company or client.

That’s what the best clients and organizations really care about. So, hold your head up high, relax, and smile. That’s confidence from the inside out.

#2 Don’t buy into societal beliefs that women aren’t respected.

Make your beliefs based on your experiences, not the aggregated statistics or beliefs of others. Chances are you have been shown respect far more often than not – by co-workers, friends, family, neighbors, grocery store clerks, toll booth tellers, waiters, receptionists, and more. Act as if it will happen again and it will.

#3 Open your mouth.

My friend was right. My words, tone, and delivery – along with non-verbal body language and dress – are far more powerful and have far more influence on others than how close I am to the floor. 

And for those who are on the short side like me, here’s a bonus:

#4 Utilize the advantages of being shorter.

You’re often considered more approachable and friendly. You are also more easily underestimated. Which makes it easier to start conversations with people and over impress them! I don’t know about you, but I like the idea of over-delivering.

You Will Never Have Enough Time Until You Do These 2 Things

Mary Foley Be More Productive

Did you run out of time today? Again? Ugh, it seems you never have enough time.

You begin your work day with full intention of being productive and before you know it your boss asked you to take care of something. Then your co-worker needed information for her 11 am meeting. Oh, and a client called with an emergency. Plus, your chatty colleague just had to tell you all the details about their weekend hiking trip.

The day is over and your list is hardly done. It might even be longer!

Understandable, responsive, and entertaining. But, you are left with a lingering to-do list and a really loud sucking sound from the time vacuum cleaner.

Productivity experts offer helpful suggestions such as managing your e-mail and social media, using productivity software, and getting organized. These can be useful tactics.

They can also be useless. You will never have enough time until you consistently do these two things.

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Are You Guilty of These 5 PowerLESS Behaviors?

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Wondering why you don’t have more influence, respect and credit that you deserve? You may be guilty of powerLESS behaviors.

Every day in business and in life, women do simple verbal and no-verbal behaviors that erode their personal power without realizing it.

Here are 5 big offenders:

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5 Keys to Influence Others in the Workplace or Marketplace

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What if you realized that, as a woman, you have the perfect setup to be very good at influencing others – for all the right reasons?

If you are already…

  • Asking questions for understanding
  • Listening more than talking
  • Thinking about how you can help others
  • Sharing useful resources
  • Deciding to stay positive and upbeat

…then you are doing what it takes to be good at influencing others.

Daniel Pink, author of To Sell is Human, determined from research that on average we spend 40% or more of our time getting someone to say “Yes!” Want to get better at it?

Here are five keys to influencing others in the workplace or market place you can use right away.

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9 Simple Ways to Reduce Holiday Stress and Make them Fun Again

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9 Simple Ways to Reduce Holiday Stress and Make Them Fun Again

Tis the season to be stressed – or is that jolly – sometimes it’s hard to tell during your holiday.  This used to be the time of year of Santa, magic and joy.  Now as an adult, anticipating Santa has been replaced with parties to look good for, a long list of gifts to buy, and holiday pageants. And don’t forget selecting, writing, and mailing cards.  Then there’s interacting with in-laws, out-laws, and every family relationship in between.

Oh, yeah, there’s still your full-time business that doesn’t slow down just because it’s the holidays.  In fact, for many it’s the time of year to finalize budgets, meet project deadlines, and make end of the year sale numbers.

Are you exhausted yet?

No matter all the external expectations this time of year, the person who can really make this holiday enjoyable is you!

With a few simple shifts in perspective and a few practical tips you can not only make this holiday positive and fun, you can make it bodacious!

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How a Little Testosterone Goes a Long Way for Every Woman in Business

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A Little Testosterone Goes a Long Way for Professional Women

As a woman in business a little testosterone can go a long way. Seriously.

First, ask yourself:  Do I tend to take negative comments by co-workers or clients personally? Do I feel overwhelmed by my work load? So I find myself doubting my abilities on a new project or position?

If so, you’re far from alone.  Me, too, until I started to notice that my male colleagues weren’t feeling the same.  Watching their behavior I realized that a little testosterone can go a long way to negate these feelings.

Here are four ways a little testosterone can seriously make your day more productive and fulfilling:

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10 Practical, Productive, Fun Tips to Help You Thrive on Change

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10 Practical, Productive, Fun Tips to Help You Thrive on Change

Anything shifting in your career, your business or your life? Any new change you have initiated or are adjusting to right now? Right, got a pulse?!

As the world turns faster and faster, as events come at us like a bad movie marathon, and as we start down new paths in our lives, the ability to stay sane amidst the swirl isn’t just nice, it’s a critical, strategic skill.

Here are 10 tips to thrive on change that are practical, productive and fun!

#1  See change for what it is. Change is uncomfortable, so we avoid it. But, to have any chance of thriving on change, you have to accept that it’s happening. See it for what it is – and what it isn’t. Face it, get the facts, and understand what it really means.

#2  Get mad, cry and whine. Change is emotional. If you bottle up your feelings, they will only work against you. So allow yourself to get mad, cry and whine. But only for a short time and not at others. During a 20 minute shower is a good option. You’re wet anyway.

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Turn Same-O-Lame-O Holiday Cards into Personal, Powerful Client Thank You’s

Mary Foley Be More Strategic, Uncategorized

It’s the last quarter of 2018! I know, I can’t believe it either. How about your revenue goals for the year?

Want a simple, powerful way to create high-value, revenue rich conversations as you go into the holiday season? Send out thank you cards, but not in a same-o-lame-o way. Otherwise, the whole thing could back fire. Here’s what I mean.

First, a reminder from marketing 101: It’s Easier to Increase Revenue with Existing Clients than Find New Ones

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5 Questions to Power Up Your Brand

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As an entrepreneur, do you want a powerful brand and think it’s mainly about amazing images on your website, social, and print materials? Think again. One thing I definitely learned being part of a small, unknown computer called Quantum Computer Services transform itself into arguably the first company to bring the online experience to the masses – AOL – is that brand is way more than a a recognize logo.

Proof is in results. During my 10 year career there, Quantum Computer Services became the brand AOL, a $7 billon dollar company with 23 million members and a wide lead in the top spot.

When I jumped the Corporate America ship and became an entrepreneur, I took everything I learned about branding and applied it to my new business.

Here are five key lessons and questions about creating a powerful brand for your own business:

1. Every company has a brand. The question is, “Is it working for you?”

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